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Musings from a Christian perspective: ACT

Over the past year I’ve been predominantly using a therapy called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy or (’ACT’, pronounced as a word) on my clients. It’s a newer form of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) which focuses on helping people with the mental health problems such as depression, anxiety, etc by developing their awareness of unhelpful thoughts and feelings, and not to give into them; but instead to act on the things that give them a richer, fuller and meaningful life. It involves a technique called ‘Mindfulness’ which just means ‘Consciously bringing awareness to your here-and-now experience with openness, interest and receptiveness.’

Interestingly, mindfulness is a type of meditation practised in Buddhism. I had the opportunity to learn more about Buddhism a couple of weeks ago when our holiday small group listened to a couple of talks from Ps Jamie Rasmussen of MarketplaceBibleStudy.com (http://www.marketplacebiblestudy.com/2011/05/index.html) as they explored different world religions. We also had the privilege of having Clement and Jeff’s Buddhist friend come along to the group and clarify some of the Buddhist concepts for us.

From what I have gleaned from the past few weeks, the main idea behind Buddhism is that craving / attachment leads to suffering and therefore in order to avoid suffering then, one needs to cease craving. The way to do that is to follow the Noble Eight-fold Path, of which right ‘mindfulness’ is a part. When people practice mindfulness, they’ll be able to be more aware of their thoughts and realise how they can get ‘caught up’ or ‘attached’ to these thoughts. They can then recognise unhelpful thought patterns and unhelpful reactions. This can then lead to positive changes.

For example, for a client who has social anxiety problems, getting ‘caught up’ in thoughts like, ‘what if they don’t like me’ or ‘I don’t have anything interesting to say’ can lead to a lot of anxiety, worry, avoidance and distress. But, if they can learn how to just ’sit with’ the anxious thoughts and feelings (instead of being ‘attached’ to the thought) and not act in line with it (e.g. by staying at home, or drinking a lot of alcohol) that can lead to much more helpful behaviours. In the long-term, this person will be less dependent on alcohol as ‘liquid confidence’, get out more, and be able to stay in social situations despite feeling anxious. They might even realise that those situations are not as bad as they predict and eventually not have a problem with social anxiety anymore.

Despite its buddhist roots, I have not had an issue as a Christian teaching and practising ACT; and I think that that mindfulness and ACT is beneficial for anyone. Practising awareness of the present moment, identifying unhelpful thought patterns and identifying unhelpful reactions (that come about from getting ‘caught up’ with these thoughts) can free one up to make wiser decisions in life.

I have found that the points at which ACT does not fit well with Christianity do not occur at the surface level of techniques and practices, it occurs more at the philosophical level. Practising the mindfulness as part of the Noble Eight-fold Path as a Buddhist is ultimately supposed to be a way of ridding yourself of suffering. From what I understand, you would need to do it for a long time, and perfectly, before reaching Nirvana, which is the ultimate reality one is hoping to reach. Also, I am not sure that mosts Buddhists reach Nirvana.

From a Christian point of view, this is ‘works-based’ and assumes that humans can get there with human effort. Christianity instead says that no matter what humans do we can never get to the ‘ultimate reality’ (i.e. for a Christian - a relationship with God) on our own. It’s a ‘grace-based’ system where we’re able to get to God by trusting in Jesus, not by our ‘good works’. Whoever believes that Jesus is their Saviour and Lord can already reach ultimate reality. They receive it as a gift rather than earn it, so therefore they don’t have to keep trying for their whole lives.

Also, the idea that attachment leading to suffering is quite different to the Christian assumption. In Christianity, it is not our attachment to things that cause suffering; rather, suffering is a result of sin, a rebellion against God which is part of the human nature. From this perspective, mental control, wisdom and right living is not enough. It would be like treating the symptoms but not the disease. Even if I were to live perfectly from now on, my past sins have not been taken care of. Even if I was able to detach myself from my thoughts and live rightly now, it doesn’t guarantee that I won’t be struggling with it again in the future because the ‘disease’ is still there, causing the symptoms to surface every now and again.

So it needs to be said that despite all the really useful therapies out there, whether it be ACT or CBT, or even self-help books, diets,…or whatever it is you do to take your life problems away; even if you can successfully finish the therapy, control all your thoughts, treat other people nicely… the biggest problem in life still has not been addressed, which is sin and the need for a relationship with God. As Christians, we can look to Jesus and be thankful for God’s grace. We can have full certainty that we are saved because it is not based on our merit, but what He has done. Although we will still face life problems, we can have true peace, knowing that our biggest problem has been solved and we don’t have to keep on working towards bettering ourselves to be ‘good enough’.

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t see a therapist if you think it would help! If you have a problem that modern psychology can help you with, by all means do see a psychologist and make an appointment!

Posted by bluebeary on Jan 28th 2012 | Filed in Miscellaneous | Comments (0)

Still Alive…

This was a triumph.
I’m making a note here:
HUGE SUCCESS.
It’s hard to overstate
my satisfaction.
[from "Still Alive", Portal]

Given the date and content of the previous post, I thought the title of this one is somewhat appropriate…

Anyway, in the five months since that post, Joyce and I got married, went to New Zealand on our honeymoon, moved into our new place and have started to settle down at our new place.

For some photos from the wedding taken by Jenny, go to her website and follow these instructions:

  1. Click on either the FLASH or HTML portfolio link.
  2. Click on CLIENTS down the bottom.
  3. Enter as password: “wdkj090328″ (colour) or “wdkj090328bw” (black & whites)

For some photos from the honeymoon, I wouldn’t hold my breath because I haven’t really gotten around to going through them yet… requires more emotional and mental juice than I have spare at the moment.  Hopefully they’ll be done in the next few weeks.

On another note, I’ve finally signed up for World of Warcraft.  It’s great to while the hours away between the time when Joyce sleeps (she sleeps early) and when I actually feel sleepy.  It requires virtually no mental activity (at least not at my n00b level anyway), and provides just enough stimulus to not be boring.  Great for zonking out after a tiring day at work.

One thing that I’ve found interesting is that the Auction Houses in the game are a fairly close analogue to real life markets.  At the end of the day, you’re faced with the big question “How much is this worth?” (pricing).  I’ve had my account for about four weeks, and really only started paying attention to the AH for about a week or so.  I’ve written an addon to mine the AH data for analysis and so far in the 3-4 days that I’ve been “trading”, I’ve made about 300g.  Not bad for about 15 mins each day on the AH… could just be beginner’s luck :D

Another thing I find amusing is the almost Pavlovian “ding! grats” response.  For those who aren’t familiar, whenever someone gains a new level, they shout out “ding!” and almost always you’ll get a bunch of people who reply with “grats”.  I think I’ll try an experiment where one weekend I’ll just march into an AH (where I believe it’s impossible to level up) and just yell out “ding!” just to see what responses I get…

Posted by droiby on Jul 27th 2009 | Filed in Miscellaneous, Musings | Comments (2)

Gonzalez Disclosure

Things have been pretty busy since the last post — wedding planning has stepped up a notch (i.e. we’re actually doing something now), and I’m still pretty much spending every Saturday popping into assorted open-house inspections.

Anyway, I never thought I’d come across one of these, but for one of the properties, I found this Special Condition in the contract:

The Vendor discloses that there may have occurred within or upon the property the most extreme human and/or other obscenities the Purchaser can imagine. Without limiting the scope and meaning of “obscenities”, they may include extreme acts in violation of the criminal and other law, acts of sacrilege, Satanism, hedonism, acts in abuse of culture or custom and acts calculated or likely to induce disgust, dread, horror, repugnance and/or revulsion on any scale in good men and women.  The purchaser acknowledges that it is a matter for his due diligence to exercise his own imagination for the purpose of this Special Condition.

I wonder what happened…

Posted by droiby on Nov 1st 2008 | Filed in Miscellaneous | Comments (2)

Long time no write… wedding update

Wow I haven’t written in such a long time. Wedding stuff is going well, it’s funny how photography was the first thing we discussed! We’ve got the deposit down for the venues (St. John’s Anglican Cathedral in Parramatta, Regal Restaurant), the ‘all-important’ wedding gown (Maggie Sotero, it was on sale! $898 :D), pre-marital retreat, and I’m looking to finalise flowers, bombonniere, invites, bridesmaid dresses this month! Not to mention getting the gift registry done. It was a huge relief to find out the other day that Myer has FINALLY got their act together with the gift registry such that you don’t have to write down every single barcode manually anymore! Phew…

There have also been other things to prepare for such as for a place to live in. Hopefully when Keith’s work releases their hold on him he will have time to look into getting us a loan. But most importantly, these past few months have been a good time to think about marriage itself, and not just the wedding. The wedding is just one day and sure, it’s an important day but I believe that one should also prepare adequately for the challenges of marriage.

From doing the pre-marital marriage inventory, Keith and I have found that our ‘growth areas’ aka weaknesses are conflict resolution, communication and something else I can’t remember. It’s been really helpful to sit down and formally think through things with an older, wiser and impartial third party. I’m thankful to God that Keith and I have many strengths together: marriage expectations, relationship roles, spiritual beliefs and leisure activities. It’s going to be interesting in our next session discussing the contribution of our family of origin into our relationship.

Please pray for us as we prepare not just for our wedding, but also for a lifetime together of commitment, love and service to one another and to our Lord. Over the months God has really hit it home that I can do nothing apart from the work of the Holy Spirit. So please pray that we would love and follow Jesus and allow the richness of that to overflow into our love for one another.

Posted by bluebeary on Sep 4th 2008 | Filed in Miscellaneous | Comments (0)

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Posted by droiby on May 12th 2008 | Filed in Miscellaneous | Comments (4)

It’s official…

At around 9:30am this morning, a company-wide announcement was made regarding my departure from CiSRA. (Oh, you were thinking of something else being official? Sorry to disappoint…)

I mentioned in my previous post that one of my aims in 2008 is to “tie up loose ends, and finalise things”, so I’m now at a stage where I’m wrapping up my work here at CiSRA. It’s been a fun 3.5 years here — great working environment, great people, and I get to play with cool stuff :) However, I feel that it’s time for me to take on new challenges. As such, I’ve taken up an offer to work at another software company in the CBD.

In the spirit of tying up loose ends, I’ve also finally put up some photos that I took in 2007. You’ll find nine new albums all in the gallery.

Posted by droiby on Feb 13th 2008 | Filed in Miscellaneous, Photography | Comments (4)

Happy ‘08

*whoosh* … and there goes 2007.

Hope you all have had an enjoyable and productive year. If not, then at least you’ve got a whole new year ahead of you to make the most of. If you’re the type that likes to make resolutions for the new year, best of luck with those! According to a survey, less than a quarter of people actually manage to keep their NY resolutions, with 35% of people giving up by the end of January.

Anyway, Joyce and I would like to wish everyone a Happy ‘08, and all the best for the new year!

Posted by droiby on Jan 2nd 2008 | Filed in Miscellaneous | Comments (0)

Epic Fail

toilet_paper.jpgI’m sure there have been substantial amounts of time and money invested into the design of toilet cubicles. I mean, these things are ubiquitous and have been around for a good deal of time. There’s gotta be some sort of usability studies on this topic. Surely anybody in the building construction industry would have no problems coming up with a functional toilet cubicle that allows you to get your job done, without fuss, and away you go.

Well, apparently not.

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Posted by droiby on Nov 28th 2007 | Filed in Miscellaneous, Technical stuff | Comments (2)

Love is in the air…

From the number of weddings, engagements, and people starting to go out in the past few months, it looks like cupid has been working overtime (which is sorta typical in this day and age… how sad).

Congratulations to Grace and Chris, as well as May-Sze and Ethan on your marriages. May God continue to grow you and bless you in your marriage.

And to preempt anybody asking me the question, I have one word for you all:

Patience.

Posted by droiby on Nov 20th 2007 | Filed in Miscellaneous, Musings | Comments (2)

A Lesson Learnt…

It’s one of those things that you hear about, and dismiss as an unfortunate event. The probability of it affecting you is rather slim, and so there’s no need to be so worried about it. The only problem is that regardless of how unlikely something is to happen, there’s still a possibility that it can occur.

I had the somewhat unfortunate experience last night of a grab-and-run while I was waiting at a red light.

Fortunately for me, there was nothing on the passenger seat, and so the would-be thief took off empty-handed. I was also lucky enough that the assailant wasn’t armed or violent.

It all happened extremely quickly — the whole event lasted at most a second. Everything that followed was simply a reaction as there was just no time to think and respond. It’s only after I’ve replayed the entire event over and over again in my mind that I can now make some sort of sense as to what happened…

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Posted by droiby on Oct 15th 2007 | Filed in Miscellaneous | Comments (2)

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